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Supporting Executive Function Skills at School and at Home: A Parent's Guide

By Dr. Aileen Arratoonian
Learn what executive function skills are, signs your child may need support, and practical strategies parents can use at home and school to help their child thrive.

Supporting Executive Function Skills at School and at Home: A Parent's Guide


Executive function skills play a major role in your child's success at school and in everyday life. When these skills are strong, children can plan, focus, manage emotions, and complete tasks independently. When they are weak, even bright and capable children may struggle.


This guide explains what executive function skills are, signs your child may need support, and practical strategies parents can use at home and school to help their child thrive.


What Are Executive Function Skills?


Executive function skills are brain-based abilities that help children:

  • Pay attention and focus
  • Plan and organize tasks
  • Start tasks that are non-preferred or may be perceived as overwhelming
  • Manage time
  • Control impulses
  • Regulate emotions
  • Remember instructions or multi-step directions

  • Think of executive function as the brain's management system. These skills develop from early childhood through young adulthood, and many children need explicit support along the way.


    Signs Your Child May Be Struggling With Executive Function


    Children with executive function challenges may:

  • Forget homework, materials, or instructions
  • Struggle to start or finish tasks
  • Have difficulty managing time
  • Feel overwhelmed by multi-step assignments or assignments with too much information on one page
  • Appear disorganized or messy; teachers may report frequent organization concerns; they may forget to take materials to and from school
  • Have emotional outbursts when tasks feel challenging
  • Perform well on tests, but struggle with daily work

  • These challenges are common in children with ADHD, learning differences, anxiety, or neurodivergent profiles, but they can affect any child.


    Why Supporting Executive Function Skills Matters


    When executive function skills are supported, children often experience:

  • Improved academic performance
  • Reduced frustration and anxiety
  • Better behavior and emotional regulation
  • Increased independence and confidence

  • Supporting these skills are not about "fixing" your children. It's about building tools that match how their brain works.


    How to Support Executive Function Skills at Home


    1. Create Predictable Routines


    Consistent routines reduce the mental load on your child's brain:

  • Keep regular times for homework, meals, and bedtime
  • Use visual schedules or checklists
  • Review the next day's plan each evening

  • Predictability helps children feel safe and organized.


    2. Break Tasks Into Smaller Steps


    Large tasks can feel overwhelming:

  • Break homework or chores into clear, manageable steps
  • Check off each step as it's completed (to provide visual cues and reinforcement, so it does not feel overwhelming)
  • Focus on progress, not perfection

  • This builds task initiation and follow-through.


    3. Use Visual Supports


    Many children with executive function challenges benefit from visual cues and supports:

  • Charts, calendars, and planners
  • Color-coded folders or notebooks
  • Timers to show how much time is left

  • Visual tools make expectations concrete and easier to remember.


    4. Support Emotional Regulation


    Executive function is closely tied to emotions:

  • Validate feelings before problem-solving
  • Teach calming strategies like deep breathing, movement breaks, or access to sensory objects that have shown to have calming effects on your child
  • Help your child name emotions and identify triggers

  • A regulated child is better able to think and learn.


    5. Model Executive Function Skills


    Children learn by watching adults:

  • Talk out loud as you plan or organize
  • Show how you manage mistakes
  • Demonstrate flexible thinking when plans change

  • This teaches skills naturally and reduces pressure.


    How to Support Executive Function Skills at School


    1. Partner with Teachers


    Communicate openly with your child's teacher about:

  • What strategies work at home
  • Areas where your child struggles most
  • Accommodations that reduce overwhelm
  • Frequent communication about struggles your child may be having at school

  • Consistency between home and school is key. Some of these supports may need to be in writing, such as a 504 Plan or IEP, and requires further assessment to determine eligibility for services/supports.


    2. Ask About Classroom Supports


    Helpful supports may include:

  • Extra time on assignments or tests
  • Written instructions in addition to verbal ones
  • Check-ins to ensure understanding
  • Preferential seating to reduce distractions

  • These supports can be part of a 504 Plan or IEP, if needed, which requires assessment to determine eligibility for services/supports.


    3. Teach Organization Systems


    Help your child learn systems they can maintain:

  • One folder per subject
  • A daily homework checklist
  • Weekly backpack clean-outs
  • Reminders at school to turn in assignments completed

  • Simple systems work best are and easier to sustain.


    4. Encourage Self-Advocacy


    As children grow, help them:

  • Ask for clarification when confused
  • Request help appropriately
  • Reflect on what strategies help them succeed

  • These skills build independence and confidence over time.


    When to Seek Additional Support


    If executive function challenges significantly impact your child's learning or emotional well-being, consider early support to help prevent further frustration and help children build lifelong skills.


    They may benefit from a neuropsychological assessment or an Independent Educational Evaluation (IEE) to determine if this is an area of concern. Contact Thrive Care Neuropsychology for a consultation.


    Final Thoughts for Parents


    Executive function skills don't develop overnight. Many children need explicit teaching, patience, and consistent support to build these abilities.


    With the right strategies at home and school, children with executive function challenges can learn to manage their responsibilities, regulate emotions, and feel successful, not because they try harder, but because they're supported in ways that truly work for them.


    *This blog is for educational purposes and does not replace individualized professional advice.*

    Tags:#Executive Function#Parent Guide#School Support#ADHD#Learning Strategies
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